I read that Simone de Beauvoir saying.
It’s really close to the slave’s mind!!
I’m so eager to see you again, but I wouldn’t ask to see you.
Not because I’m proud. In fact, in front of you, I cede all my pride.
Yet only if you asked to see me, our meeting would be meaningful to me.
--1950, Simone de Beauvoir, Lettres à Nelson Algren